Have you met them? These men who are incredibly intelligent and charming... and I suppose there are women like that too? Wonderful people - they are your perfect match in all areas and youthink: "Finally I found my soulmate!"You are perfect together. He is also caring, loving and understanding. You feel safe. You open up. You lay your heart in his hand and if you're not careful, you become dependant of this person. Addicted to his attention, love and care. Then everything starts to slip a little bit.
He knows he has you... So he doesn't need to work so hard for it anymore. He knows you love him, so he doesn't have to be nice all the time.
This is the point where you start getting confused. Suddenly he changes? So what have you done wrong? This is also where your alarm should start ringing. Most women just goes on, pretending not to hear the alarm, they start to work to get back what they experienced in the beginning.
They try to please the partner as good as they can, sort out the misunderstandings, be "nice, nice, nice"... But instead it gets worse and worse, NOTHING works.
Once in a while you still see his charming old self. Specially when friends are present. But most of the time he is angry, jealous and controling. And it makes you sad, scared and feeling small.
And what have you done wrong, you know he is really good... because you saw him in the beginning, you KNOW he is really nice. Somewhere deep inside him he has a heart of gold.
I have ONE advice: Get out of there, girl!! He is empty, and what you saw in the beginning was an act. Maybe evil clowns need love too... But I am certainly not the one to give it to them!!
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well....I completely agree with you....
Sometimes these are just pretenses and women need to know how to look at situations like that and always be ready to expect the unexpected...
Such changes are indeed sad....but we need to be ready to accept things and remember that people can always changes when it is least expected....
sometimes we get blinded and this can be sad...
BUT, I must tell you that there are women like this too!!
I've been through this.. so I know how it feels... and now I also know what to do...:-)
Hi Lauren, I really wish you the best... Hope he take his mask off.... And if what's under the mask is clown too, then I hope you don't waste too much time!
:) nice post :)
Thanks a lot for that, happy that someone like what I write :)
Hmmm, this too? Yaiks!
Been down some fairly similar paths haven't we;)?
Living and learning...
F.J.
Well in the end it is the only way to learn, isn't it?
True!
i came across this page and could not stop from making this comment...
...that you and the others who commented were the simple- minded victims of a sociopath. Too common, too cheap to realise the truth. The fact is, they can be cured. I saw 2 of their kind becoming better because of their gilrfriends. But why am i telling you this? Simple-minded fools, followers of today's society, will never understand.
I, and others as well, will apreciate if you ever delete this page. There are hundreds of misguided informations about socios on the internet, we don't need another page telling us how 'evil' they are. They're human just like everybody else.
That may be true. In my case this person did not realize he needed to get "better". To be near him harmed me, to try and be understanding and therapeutic did not do the trick. I am not too interrested in reading about the sociopaths - but HE might be??
They usually don't know they need help. And i don't know if help is the apropriate term - it is true that some try to nurture them, and that can even annoy them. You cannot establish some sort of relation with them unless you know about the their way. Knowledge about them is good for both you and him. For him - knowledge about himself will help him see who he is. Socios are prisoners of their own minds. And for you - will bring some sort of inner peace. Believe me i know what i'm talking about.
I am a man, who has made mistakes. Milked maybe too many women, but also gave too much cake. It is unfair to use your one experience to justify your sexist rant, you simply can't genralise too much. When you come home to find your wife at it with your best mate, you see things differently. Hope you can let go of your bitterness someday.
Evil clowns? hahahaha smell my flower!
Hey :D Thanks for commenting ;) Think I have now, as you see this is an old post, thank you for making me read it again ;)
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